Fellow Ghanaian men abroad. I'm a 64year man and lived in the US for 35 years with my family. Throughout my life with my family I can't say I lived happily.
I had a wonderful wife by my side but I took her for granted - I didn't pay much attention to her as I always had a vision of going back to the life I left off in Ghana.
I had affairs which she got to know and it made her feel very sad but I never apologised - I only told her to get over it as I'm not the first man to be unfaithful. She would be depressed for weeks and eventually recover. She said very little but never failed to say how unhappy she was.
I never went on family holidays with them in all these years. But occasionally I'll visit Ghana alone and sleep with either an ex girlfriend or a short term girlfriend to fulfil my fantasy, on my return my wife wasn't attractive to me for weeks. Our sex life wasn't great as I'm always thinking of other women, I felt I would have a better life if I lived in Ghana.
I planned on returning and settling in Ghana alone on my retirement with the idea of leaving them and setting up a business. When I retired I told them, they protested but I went against my wife's word and daughter stopped talking to me but I thought I've got my life to lead so I went.
My plan worked- I took all my retirement money with me and selfishly left my wife and daughter, hoping that she can cope as she's still working. I promised them I'll be visiting the US often. It was exciting at first and yes I had a beautiful girlfriend who flattered me.
Within a year in Ghana all the money was finished while the business wasn't fully set up, I was confronted with too many set backs. Then to top it I was hit with a brain tumour and prostate cancer so I had to come to the U S again for treatment.
My wife and daughter did well to take care of me but I didn't feel the love or passion from them. I was very depressed because I needed them. I realised that my wife and daughter have moved on and having a good life.
My wife had reinvented herself ( lost weight and dressed smarter) and I'm suspecting she's seeing someone because she too happy. Within a year in America my health was better but I had to return to Ghana to complete my so called business.
I'm in Ghana now but very sad without my wife by me. She's moved on emotionally after years of neglect. I'm impotent now after my cancer and not willing to embarrass myself with having any woman so I'm very lonely.
If I was loyal to my wife and made her happy in our marriage my story will be different. Please young men out there, read my story to avoid this stupid mistakes I made. My life is in an utter state of confusion and I can't even discuss anything with my wife.
I'm depressed and lonely. Make future plans with your wives, stay faithful so you can love her fully and make her feel special because you've only one chance and one life. Do things so your wife will bless you. Let's be careful of our plans of setting up businesses back Ghana in our old age.
It's often a fantasy and it doesn't work. All the money goes down the drain. I've spoken to so many men stuck In Ghana with the same mistake. I had a good life in America but failed to see. I'm not saying we shouldn't come back because that's where we're from but we men should not do this alone. Just enjoy your life - it's too short.
My cancer is spread and I have months to live. I've been advised not to bother going back to America because nothing can be done. My wife and daughter are coming to see me before my end.
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